I’m so happy that you get to meet one of the women I mentor for a change. Amanda Mae Steele is with me today and she has much to say about a girl and her relationships. We talk about how clutter in a home can match what’s going on in a girl’s soul and subsequently, in her relationships. Do you take the “Marie Condo” approach with your papers, closet or friends? The book Amanda Mae recommends is called Spark Joy and it has given me a new set of eyes…. http://amzn.to/2h3kxXf
Amanda Mae talks about how God uses one on one relationships to draw us into the fold of Christ. Can you trace your faith journey back to one person? One woman who witnessed to you about what the Lord had been doing in her life? One girl who brought the Word of God alive for you? One person who made a daring raid into enemy territory to be your friend? What’s her name? We’ll both tell you about ours in this episode.
We also discuss how you can design confrontation feel like an invitation to your friend or coworker. Amanda Mae admits her story doesn’t have a pretty red bow around it… the friendship she mentions; they did eventually split; they agreed that it was best to part ways since the recording of this interview.
Still, Amanda Mae says cultivating friendships is worth the risk of being hurt. She gave me permission to share this ongoing story with you today in hopes that you are encouraged in your own relationship trials. (It does happen; you’re not the only one…)
My girl went from being a people pleasing party girl to a sinner saved by and still in need of Grace. Even though she was “religious” since early childhood, Amanda Mae became a Christian later — in college, where she says God “lifted a veil” and helped her to understand the Gospel of Jesus Christ through loving friendships with Cru members on her campus. God used Cru staffers and members in a large way in my own life- yours too? Here’s the Bible study that laid her spiritual foundation; http://amzn.to/2h2gdqY
You’ll laugh hearing about her rafting adventure. And I will actually share about a conflict we had to work through together in our own friendship. Neither of us are professional counselors but I believe you will glean much from this conversation. Here’s a short list of things I learned from this sweet friend of mine, wise beyond her years;
– One on one relationships are key in leading someone to the Savior. Cultivating these can be risky but it’s worth it.
- When someone communicates a hurt, ask curious questions. Offer them a validating, listening ear. Resist the temptation to defend your self.
– When you’re the one who’s been hurt, mourn your loss and share your heart with the focus on you. (“I feel ___” or “Here’s where I was hurt…”) That’s what confrontation is.
– Pray Psalm 139. “Search me, O God. You know me…” Repent and ask the Spirit for wisdom about going to the other party.
– Go and confess your part in the thing if the Lord leads you to do that.
Thanks for joining me today.
Amanda Mae Steele’s writing and photography can be found at
amandamaesteele.com. Go check out the puppy pics! Bound to put a smile on your face :-0)
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Till next time,