There are 3 things I always seem to talk about with friends; connecting in relationship; peering in (at self,) gazing up (at Spirit) and reaching out (to others.) It seems only natural to continue that conversation on this podcast.
As a whole, we’re hurting and the worst part is, we don’t know it. The stats are there though and it’s undeniable- American women are relying on alcohol, medication and credit cards like never before.
About 2 decades ago, I was on meds myself, for depression and recurring suicidal thoughts. Having a safe place can be a life saver- it was for me in my dark night….. That’s my hope for you here; that you’d find it to be a “hammock for your soul.”
I can see in hindsight, that God doesn’t waste a drop of our suffering. Through my valleys, He continues to make His Name known to me and to others in my sphere of influence, as “Redeemer.”
I learned that until God showed me the depths of my sorrow, I could not receive the heights of His Healing.
I learned then how very important it is to do soulcare and how imperative it is to set my gaze upward, fixing my eyes on the Author of the Story. Reaching out to others was absolutely necessary also… Integrating all three of these deserves our exploration and intention.
Now, when I consider the questions of the Westminster Confession of Faith (which we will discuss in depth in a later episode) I see His Fingerprints all over the dark shadowed places of my past. Through it all, He was present. Always making His Name known, yes… so that I could ultimately see Him, know Him & enjoy Him forever.
We Can Learn From Them
Every time I see photos or think back on my early visits to India as a child, I’m flooded with memories of jerky, death defying rickshaw rides through overcrowded city streets (with NO traffic lights!!!) and smooth silent rides down long village lanes by moonlight. One can travel from one world to another within minutes in India…..Our Thatha (“Grandpa” in Tamil) was a prominent judge with many sons in a small village on the southernmost tip by the Indian Ocean.
The scenery there is burned on my brain. I still get teary thinking about it – truly it was an Edenic Paradise where people really did matter more than things or devices. I learned so much from my fellow brown people. (Don’t know that I will ever stop….) In one of our upcoming episodes- “Brown People Do Community Better”- we’ll get into specifics of the lifestyle I observed and how it differs from ours. I believe we can learn a thing or two from other cultures.
Most of us can say without question that we wholeheartedly agree with what scripture says about relationships being more important than things or devices or tasks, but when you look at the way we actually live, it’s not very evident, is it? Why is it so easy for us to get all that mixed up? Why do we feel so tempted and pulled to worship the counterfeit god of self reliance?
I know it feels so risky, this whole idea of living shoulder to shoulder- because hurt people hurt people. It seemed like an inevitable, unstoppable cycle. I’d feel hurt in a relationship, then leave. I’d hurt someone, then they’d leave… I wondered if there could ever be a different way; a different style of relating to others. I remember making a conscious decision to not need others bc it just hurt too much… But then I read something C.S. Lewis wrote- “The only place (outside of Heaven) you’d be safe from pain….. is hell.”
An example of interdependent living is also evident in the Trinity. Each of the Three Persons of this Holy Community is complete on Their own… and Each One is who they are in relation to the Other Persons at the same time. Oh, that we would learn from them how to live in harmony with others.
Grace & Gratitude
The image of Jesus Christ’s medals being “pinned to my chest” -that Tim Keller quote in the first episode- I find that to be very humbling- don’t you? I’ve always pictured the Son as a decorated war hero who made a daring raid into enemy territory to rescue me so this depiction really resonates with me. Basically, Jesus did all the work; we get all the credit- and all that’s required of us is that we believe Him. The Lord really does seem to make it too easy…..
This podcast is one way for me to allow my life to be like a big THANK YOU to Him for all He is and all He’s done. I can’t NOT write about Him. I can’t NOT talk about Him. Like the disciples in Acts 4, I can’t shut up. He’s turned my world upside down and from my small corner of the world, I will tell you how His wonder working power can transform your life through real relationship too.
Come, sit with us!
When I’m in recording mode, I’m picturing your face walking through my door, taking a seat at my kitchen table – a sacred place- and talking about the things that are held near & dear to us- our relationships. I imagine I’d pour you a nice cup of hot spicy Indian chai tea latte, (I like mine made with fresh tea leaves, cinnamon sticks and cardamom pods with warmed cashew milk.)
Write in on facebook and tell me how you like yours or if you’d choose coffee or something else… Visualizing you, my listener, helps me not observe too closely to my own voice- which I SIMPLY cannot stand!!! (it’s like fingernails on styrofoam to me. )
I’m especially fond of the interviewing process- I’m one of the nerdy ones who even enjoys editing!!! I so appreciate the brave souls who speak about their victories and struggles in the relationships of their lives. I am so thrilled that there is more & more great content out here in podcast space.
One additional show I just discovered since this recording is “Java with Juli.” Juli Slattery is a favorite psychologist/sociologist/author of mine and I would highly recommend her to you. Every woman I know needs to be listening to her message of authentic intimacy. If you have a Gospel centered podcast you’d suggest, please send them my way! I’m always looking for value. Gimme something I can USE!
Thanks for listening and reading and writing in. After you’ve had an opportunity to take in a few episodes, if ya like what you hear, please subscribe & leave us a good sentence or two on itunes! Know this is not to feed my ego (I have nothing to gain or lose since I already have the nod of approval from the King) but it does speak loudly when we support Gospel centered vehicles… This goes for movies with a redemptive theme, tv shows, all sorts of entertainment sources….. And let me know what you’d like to hear more about on the show.
Till next time,