In NYC visiting one of my dearest friends of 15 years (Johanna Cappon,) back when she lived in the Big Apple. Jo and I got our bellman to take the photo on the left as we were on our way to tea in Chelsea where we’d get to witness the weirdest performance art ever! It cracked us UP! On the right is Kara Stoltenberg- she’s been one of my closest peers ever since we brought Davey home from India 12 years ago. And even though each of these women is younger than me, I consider them both spiritual mentors. The sweetest part – they each also play the role of “Big Sis” to my daughter.
One in front, one beside and one behind…. This is an approach to mentoring that has a young woman living interdependently with other women.
The one in front is ideally older and wiser, leading by example. Her message might be “Follow me.”
The one to the side can be a peer around the same age/stage, who walks a similar path, with whom the woman can sense the message of validation, “Me too.”
The one behind would most likely be a younger woman who’s asking “Show me?”
What many of us don’t realize is – this system is basically built into just about every culture in the world except ours! We have to be much more deliberate in forming these relationships in our “can do” culture.
But we can learn how; it’s important. Not only does living interdependently have countless health benefits for us, we’re commanded to do it. And it’s a way for the world to see God’s love- as it’s reflected in our community.
Do you have a mentor?
What about a friend walking alongside you?
Or a mentee?
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We will be discussing each of these roles in depth in an upcoming episode.