I first met Dian Belbeck at a women’s retreat; she was making an announcement for a Bible study she was about to launch. She actually seemed excited about taking a group of women through the book of Nehemiah. (Keep in mind, this was obviously before I really appreciated or had any real relevance for the Word) I asked her “Nehemiah? Does anything good come out of there????” She chuckled and assured me “YES!!! — Oh yes!”
Do you love hearing about her adventures in Africa? I can see her trying to hang on for dear life while relieving herself in the “rest room” which sounds anything but restful. And I can picture her in all her glory with the bright yellow crocs and white hair on top running through the bush of Africa. Hil.Ar.Ee.Ous.
Through life’s ups and downs, she names the one thing that has served as her soul anchor. It’s not things; it’s not even the people she loves so dearly. “All that input from the Word of God over the years- that’s what held me.”
She proved to me just a few months ago how very approachable she really is; I confronted Dian because I was hurt by something she said to me. When I told her, she was so humble about it. didn’t try to defend herself, didn’t try to make it all about her… she listened, and she apologized. This made me respect her even more than I did before. 🙂 Do you know a woman like this? Do you have a Mentor or a Big Sis? If not, find one.
The term “Laughing at the days ahead comes from Prov 31 (which always used to make me a little nauseous.) But I’ve learned that it’s not some impossible standard we’re supposed to be striving for. It’s really a prayer from a mother’s heart for her son’s future wife; sort of a tribute to her daughter n law to be…. Isn’t that so honoring? I imagine she’s dreaming of things he’ll appreciate about her, and encouraging him with words of gratitude she hopes he will one day speak about his wife. Read it again (fill in your own activities) and let it encourage you. Here’s a piece I loosely paraphrased…
A woman of valor is a treasure to keep,
worth far more than expensive earthly things,
She kneels to pray for those in her care,
She treats others with dignity and respect.
She’s not afraid of work, which will probably seem
never ending & futile at times.
When you find her, Son, let her know how much you appreciate her-
not just for all she does, but for who she is to you.
Try to put into words all she means to you-
Find a hundred ways.
Tell her you wouldn’t be the man you are without her.
That If it weren’t for her holding down the fort,
and tenderly holding your heart,
That you wouldn’t be able to slay a single dragon
or close a single deal.
I’ve been praying for your wife to know the Lord God.
That her identity will be firm and secure.
That she will not be shaken when hard times come
Or friends let her down.
Or when you forget a special day.
She’ll have a peace that will enable her to smile in the face of trial
and laugh at the days ahead.
She fights alongside angels in the spiritual realm
From her knees in the still of her prayer closet,
She lifts up her voice in praise of the Father
and cries out on behalf of her loved ones in spirit.
She is active in her community
and tries to make the world a little bit better,
A little bit safer…. than the day before.
You’ll work hard but she’ll run circles around you;
It never stops for her, you’ll be astounded at her ability to multitask.
By day, she’ll be fulfilling her many obligations at her job,
While making sure that everyone at home is fed and clothed,
By the time you’ve moved from the kitchen sink to getting dressed for bed,
She probably will have sold 3 pieces on etsy, volunteered at the Mission,
brought an extra pan to the sick neighbor, laid out the kids’ clothes,
read to them, tucked them in, covered them in kisses,
folded 3 loads and ironed your shirt.
In all that time, you may have barely managed to wash the dishes.
Some times, it will seem to you that she has extra eyes in the back of her head
so she can keep everyone in the house busy enough, on time, productive.
Thank her for praying and cleaning and cooking and caring and working…
For clipping coupons and shopping the best deals in town,
mindful to save money where she can
Praise her for being generous to the underserved around her.
You’ll marvel at her ability to listen to the children, play legos and dolls
while cooking dinner and keeping ALL things wiped clean- all at the same time
I trust that she’ll help you raise the next generation in the admonition of the Lord,
and teach our kids that the only thing to fear in this world, is GOD.
And because they’ll feel so loved and safe with you both,
I’m confident they will choose to let Christ in when His call comes.
Tell her often that she’s amazing and that you’re proud to be her man.
When she speaks, commend her on her wisdom.
Notice her kind acts and brag about her in public.
Your wife- she will not only be exquisitely attractive on the outside to you,
but remember how beautiful she is through and through
Give thanks to God for her.